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Pamela Esther Horton
April 12, 1949 ~ June 21, 2023 (age 74) 74 Years Old
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Pamela Esther Horton, 74, wife of the late Jerry Horton of Chesapeake, Virginia, passed away peacefully Wednesday, June 21, 2023, at the home of her daughter surrounded by family.
Born on April 12, 1949, in Pittsfield, Massachusetts, Pam was the daughter of the late John and Dorothy Proctor of Shortsville, New York. When she was one, they moved to Rochester, New York. Her favorite nicknames growing up were 'peanut' and 'snowball'. She told us her dad called her 'peanut' because she was so small, and her Uncle Gordon called her 'snowball' because of her white hair.
Pam attended Charlotte High School in Rochester, NY. She had wanted to become a nurse like her Aunt Jane. She worked at a nursing home in the summer when she was 15 and became a nurse's aide at Strong Memorial when she was 16.
After marrying her then husband, Raymond Traugott Sr., they moved to Loveland, Colorado in 1974 with their two children Laura and Ray. While living in Loveland she made a friend for life, Cindy Isaacs, who was just like family to her.
She moved to Virginia Beach, Virginia in 1983 with her then husband, Calvin Stewart. She worked for Ridgway's for 27 years and was a dedicated employee rising to management.
She married her late husband Jerry Horton in 1993 in Virginia Beach and became stepmother to Kenny Horton when he was just five years old.
In 2017 she moved to Fairfax, Virginia to live with her son, Ray, and his family. Always quick to make friends, she joined a neighborhood book club soon after moving in. Ray and family affectionately called her 'hummingbird' and '20 questions' because she was always busy and curious.
Pam was full of life, love and took pleasure in the small things. She loved her family fiercely and expressed herself creatively throughout her lifetime with photography, drawing and painting. She made colorful mosaic tile top tables to give as gifts and sold a few at a small art shop in the Historic District in Occoquan, VA. She loved reading and devoured books just like her father. She also inherited her father's green thumb and took great joy enhancing wherever she was with beautiful living things. Throughout her life she enjoyed camping, gardening, baking, and a little Hershey's milk chocolate after every meal. She celebrated all holidays with vigor and had everything to make it festive and fun.
She is survived by her daughter Laura and her husband Mike, their children Sean and Ryan of Millersville, MD. She is also survived by her son Ray and his wife Chapin, their children Lily and Nate of Fairfax, VA. She is also survived by her late husband Jerry's son Kenny Horton, his children Noah and Jacob of Chesapeake, VA. She is also survived by her brother and his wife Bruce and Donna Proctor, and their children Scott and Dan. Pam loved her family dearly and kept in close touch with her Uncle Gordon, Aunt Ruthie, Aunt Jane, and cousins on her mother's side of the family, The Crowell's.
Pam's memorial service will be held at the First Baptist Church in Manchester, NY on Saturday, July 29, 2023, at 11 am at 54 S Main St, Manchester, NY 14504. Interment of ashes will occur after the service at Pioneers' Cemetery on Dewey Road in Shortsville, NY 14548. There will be a celebration of her life at the Depot 25 Restaurant starting at noon.
In lieu of flowers, please go shopping and enjoy some "retail therapy" in Pam's honor. Just be sure it's on sale or better yet clearance just the way she would have loved it.
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